No. I’m not a therapist, and this isn’t therapy.

Therapy often focuses on the why — trauma, history, diagnosis, and processing the past. That work is valuable. If you’re in crisis or need clinical support, please seek a licensed mental health professional.

This work focuses on the how —
how to notice where you are,
how to reconnect to yourself,
and how to show up in relationships without losing yourself.

Therapy and this work can complement each other.

No.

Dating coaching usually focuses on tactics — what to say, how to present yourself, how to perform attractiveness.

I don’t teach performance.

I help you get clear on who you actually are, so you can show up as yourself instead of a version you think someone wants.

When you’re clear on who you are, you don’t need scripts.

You attract people who resonate with the real you.

Many programs focus on insight and understanding — learning why you do what you do.

That’s valuable.

This work focuses on real-time application.

I teach you how to notice where you are in the moment and how to shift — practically, repeatedly, and with less effort over time.

The Vim & Zen spectrum, the process, and the tools are designed for daily life, not just understanding.

This work tends to resonate with people who:

You don’t need to be broken.

You do need to be willing.

I help people who:

I don’t work with couples.

This is individual work.

The focus is on you — your awareness, your clarity, your capacity to show up differently.

I’m not here to fix or change you.

And honestly, I can’t.

My role is to help you see what’s already there — to notice patterns, clarify what’s true for you, and reflect it back so you can decide what is and isn’t getting you closer to what you want.

I also don’t work with:

It depends on where you’re starting and how deep you want to go.

Some people notice shifts quickly — within weeks of paying attention differently.

Lasting change isn’t about arriving.

It’s about building skills you’ll use for the rest of your life.

Free

Coming in 2026

1:1 Coaching
I keep my practice small and personal.
If you’re ready to dive in, let’s talk.

Start by paying attention.

The simplest entry point is the newsletter — short insights and teachings that reflect the Vim & Zen approach.

You can also explore The Method to understand the framework and language.

There’s no rush.
Start where you are.