Whether the relationships you want feel out of reach, or the ones you have don't feel the way you hoped: trying harder isn't the answer.
You haven't been missing a strategy.
You've been missing the starting point.
Studied.
Master of Business Creation,
University of Utah (in progress)
Certified Life Coach,
ADDCA (ICF-accredited program)
BS, Family and Human Development,
Utah State University
Teaching Certification,
Utah State University
Certificate: Building a Life of Wellness, Harvard Medical School
Lived.
Years of asking why my closest relationships felt the hardest, and doing the work to find out.
Not in theory. In my actual life.
I'm still doing it. That's why I can guide you through it.
Researched.
Backed by the Harvard Study of Adult Development, attachment theory, and decades of research on identity, emotional regulation, and human connection.
The work is grounded in evidence, not opinion.
This isn't just experience. It's research.
The longest study on adult development in history, run by Harvard for over 85 years, found that the single greatest predictor of long-term happiness, health, and longevity isn't wealth, fame, or even genetics. It's the quality of our relationships.
But here's what gets less attention: the relationships we have with others are downstream of the relationship we have with ourselves. Research on attachment, identity development, and emotional regulation consistently points to the same thing. We can't sustain real connection without building it internally.
That's the gap most people are living in. And it's the gap this work was built to close.
vim & zen wasn't built from a textbook
How could I work so hard at the relationships most important to me and still feel so much distance? That question started everything. It was built from years of living that question and doing the work to find the answers.
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This work is slow and honest.
We meet weekly, one-on-one,
and move at your pace.
No scripts, no hacks, just the foundation everything else gets built on.
See "Work with me" button for more details.
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