BoxWork™

BoxWork is one of the frameworks
I've developed to do this work.

Most of us spend our lives trying to improve
what can be seen without ever examining what is driving it.
BoxWork is the process of slowing down and looking beneath the surface,
where the beliefs shaping our lives actually live.

Think of your mind like a house. The upper floor is your conscious life,
where you work, set goals, and build relationships.

The basement is your subconscious, filled with labeled boxes. 
Each one holds beliefs.

We mistake the beliefs inside for facts, and they quietly run our lives.

A Few Examples

Relationships
Beliefs you might find:

• Love means never needing anything.

• If I have to ask, it doesn't count.

• A good partner sacrifices everything.

Work and Achievement
Beliefs you might find:

• My value is my productivity.

• I have to prove I belong here.

• Ambition is selfish.

You don't know the boxes are there.
But what's inside them
is the program running your life.
No one told you the beliefs were negotiable.

The Warning Signs

You know it's time for basement work when:

• You repeat the same patterns in your relationships, no matter who you're with.
• You have an emotional reaction far bigger than the moment that triggered it.
• You can't answer "How are you, really?" without going numb or answering on autopilot.
• You erase your own opinions to keep everyone else comfortable.

BoxWork is the process of going downstairs together and sorting through what's there.