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Vim & Zen 101

The Gist

For 85 years, Harvard studied what makes a good life. The answer: relationships.

But there’s a step most people miss:

You can’t build healthy relationships with others until you’ve figured yourself out first.

Vim & Zen teaches that missing step.

The Missing Step

So the next step is to build better relationships.

Yes — but not first.

You can’t be authentic with others if you don’t know what’s authentic for you.

You can’t set healthy boundaries if you haven’t figured out where they are.

Fulfilling relationships start with clarity about who you are.

Two Paths

The Default Path

Miss the first step

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Try to connect

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Exhaustion and disconnection

The Researched Path

Get clear on who you are
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Connect
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Authentic, fulfilling relationships

The difference is simple: knowing yourself first.

What Is Vim & Zen?

Vim = energy and drive

Zen = calm and stillness

Both Matter

Vim & Zen is about noticing where you are and knowing how to shift when you need to.

The Process

Notice — what’s running beneath the surface

Clear — what’s been getting in the way

Install — what you want instead

Let it run — with less effort than you expected

On Light and Dark

What we avoid seeing can feel fixed. It isn’t.

The parts of us that stay in the dark aren’t broken — they’re just unseen.

The work is noticing. And bringing light again.

It’s not linear. It’s human.

Now you know the why.

Ready for the how?

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